I refuse to be told that I’m not going to be any part of my granddaughters life by a person who had to make up stories and lies instead of being able to have an adult conversation. After my 5 year anniversary passed for the last time I saw my granddaughters I am now more dedicated than ever to have them know what my wife and I went through and the lies that were told by our son. But I’m not going to do it the way he has boasted he knows I would. No, I do this by writing these articles, writing my book and most of all writing to my twin granddaughters in the diary we have for them.
This is how I/we keep their memories alive and in the forefront of our minds. When I write to them, I can’t help but smile as I do it because I’m thinking of what they might think and say when they see what they are going to see. The diary is now 4 years old and has over 23,000 words in it even though every entry is only one paragraph long. I/we try to keep things simple and tell them about our life, along with things that happen to us. Today, I wrote to them about their older sister being here and how much she would have loved to see them but isn’t allowed too. It’s a way for me to carry them in my heart and soul each day. Sunday’s are especially important to my wife and I, when it comes to them. When my wife goes to church in the morning, she makes sure to light candles for them each day and when I go, I make sure to train my thoughts on seeking God’s grace for them.
It doesn’t have to be a diary though. Maybe you don’t like to write but you love the memory. One other thing we did in the past is have a glass replica made of our favorite picture. These are relatively inexpensive and come with a lighted base. At night we turn it on as a way to recall the day of the picture while we read books with them. Just the expression on their faces light us up as we recall it. There are multiple ways to keep them in your heart. Most of us don’t need anything to remind us because they are with us all the time anyway but it really does help to have something to look at, read or feel as a way to bring those loving memories back to the front of our mind. Do what works for you but never give up and never give in…….
